The Priestess Presence Manual: 16 Things to Stop to Unlock True Power

Why I thought I could change my reality while shrinking and retreating is beyond me

AKA the Priestess Presence Manual 

AAKA shit I had to stop doing to be who I am today 😮‍💨 

→ I didn’t realize it would take owning my presence and power to actually change my situation.

Presence is a force.
It changes the room, the energy, even your trajectory.
When you master your presence, you don’t have to push, perform, or prove.
You become magnetic through being.

Your presence is the ritual.
Your identity is the offering.
When your energy is refined, your impact becomes inevitable.

My power needed me to stop:

1. Stop looking for signs every single place you are. The shampoo bottle is not a sign.

2. Stop being obsessed with security. Learn to hold the paradox: you are always safe, and safety is never guaranteed.

3. Stop worrying. You are collapsing your power and expanding the time it takes to get what you want. You want it the other way around.

4. Stop trying to “show up right.” Stop hedging your words. Fragmentation kills impact.

5. Stop muting your frequency. Feeling like too much or not enough shrinks your presence into digestible formats.

6. Stop proving your value. Stop proving, period. If you have to teach or convince people into your work, you become porous. Presence requires containment.

7. Stop being “nice.” The root of “nice” is necient—it means stupid, foolish, needy. Stand for what you stand for. Hold that standard high. Have conviction.

8. Stop being led by the patriarchy. Start trusting your desires, no matter how irrational or impractical they seem.

9. Stop being only in your head. Nobody is led by an intellectual. Presence lives in your body, your voice, your stillness, your gaze, your connection to purpose. It’s not something you say—it’s something you are.

10. Stop stopping every time something triggers you. You can’t build your mansion if you never get past the foundation.

11. Stop calling it confusion. It’s identity collapse. You’re not lost—you’re mid-initiation. It’s uncomfortable.

12. Stop editing the parts of you that carry heat. Your power lives in the intensity you were told to soften. Keep the edge. That’s where the archetype lives.

13. Stop seeking clarity before you do. Clarity is not a prerequisite… it’s a reward for devotional doing.

14. Stop narrating your evolution to make others comfortable. There’s power in being unfathomable. Let them feel it.

15. Stop mistaking performance for presence. Just because you’re visible doesn’t mean you’re seen… or allowing openness. Presence is when your soul enters the room first.

16. Stop collapsing when you're not understood. Most people won’t recognize the priestess until she anoints herself.

Extra credit: could you let sombody pay you for your stillness alone?

This is priestess-level presence.

These are the initiations.
This is what we practice here.

Your presence is what shapes reality.
And it starts when you stop everything that fragments it.

I wanted my presence alone to change reality. Like walk into a room and shift my fate kind of presence. I wanted my business to shift overnight, while retreating back into my hermit hole every time something triggered the fragmented part of me.
—>But I was still shrinking, proving, convincing, over-explaining, editing, performing.
I had power, but I was leaking it everywhere.

This is the list I wrote to stop collapsing my magic just to be tolerated, to seem “nice” and not intimidating (hint: I know I am but now I know it’s my power that frightens), or to be palatable.
This is just a mirror, if you’re ready to stop, too.

✨ Read it like a ritual.
💥 Save it for the days you start disappearing again.
🪞 Come back to yourself, every damn time. Show up, and be INEVITABLE!!

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